I know the majority of people come to me to lose weight. I’m a fitness trainer. I’m a coach. You come to me because you want me to get you to do things you wouldn’t do on your own and you want me to whip you into shape.
That’s great. And I’ll do that.
But my secret goal (and the thing that helps the most) is to help you stop punishing yourself and start to ACTUALLY ENJOY EXERCISE. I know, crazy idea, right? But I’ve done it and I’ll continue to do it because when you change your mindset and start to think of exercise as a way of life instead of a punishment for what you decided to eat the night before, your brain starts to shift. And with that, your body shifts.
Let’s look at 2 different mindsets:
A) Susan ate 4 pieces of pepperoni pizza last night. The whole time she was thinking how this was not on her “diet” and how “bad” she was for eating the carbs, grease, and eating too much! She decides to get up early and do 1000 swings before work as a punishment for eating the pizza. Oh yeah, and she had ice cream after the pizza because, well, she was already “off” the “diet” that meal, so why not just start fresh tomorrow?
B) Mary ate 4 pieces of pepperoni pizza last night. The whole time she was enjoying the flavor – she doesn’t eat pizza very often because she is trying to live a healthier life and fuel her workouts and have the most energy for her busy life – but it was a long, stressful day and the kids wanted pizza, so she ate it with them and enjoyed every bite. They had ice cream too, because it was Friday and it just sounded good after dinner. Mary realized that wasn’t the healthiest dinner or dessert, but she didn’t beat herself up about it. It was a treat she doesn’t do very often. Mary got up in the morning and did 1000 swings because that was the workout that was planned for the week.
Do you see how Susan’s mindset is all about punishment and restriction? While Mary’s is more about healthy living and understanding that life isn’t perfect?
They both did they same thing: ate the same, worked out the same. But I’ve had many women like these two women as my students. And I don’t have research to back this up, but what I know from experience is that the “Marys” lose more weight than the “Susans”. Every time.
So my questions to you:
Who are you? Are you a Mary? Or a Susan?
What can you do differently to set yourself up for success?
Train Smart. Be Strong. Live Balanced.